We didn’t fight about whether we were lying to our kids over Santa and the Easter Bunny. I’ve seen vicious arguments on this topic. If you don’t celebrate childhood magical creatures you are not giving your child the wonders of being kid. If you do, then you are a flat our liar and teaching your kids to lie. Seriously? Never ever had I seen mothers argue over that before social media. Absolutely ridiculous.
We didn’t get into debates that took up hours of our day. Admit it. You’ve lurked or debated something and wasted way too much time doing so. And for what? Did anyone change their minds? Did you feel better? Did peace come to the world? Doubt it.
We didn’t look for validation from so many. Since when does it matter what someone YOU HAVE NEVER MET thinks of anything you do in your life?
We didn’t take so much into our brain at once. Status updates, links, articles, news, etc. It’s more overwhelming than we realize.
We didn’t nitpick, argue, and judge Every. Little. Thing. Women needs support, not this garbage.
What did we do before Facebook? We had playdates with like minded friends or even friends who did things different but respect each other. We fed our kids, played with them, watched too much daytime TV, cleaned, shopped, talked to friends and family on the phone or email. We Googled for information on baby foods and read articles on vaccines. We turned to wise women and a few close friends for their thoughts, experiences, and guidance.
Social media is part of my job. Between you and me, I hate it. I despise social media. It’s the simplest way to reach more people and as long as I can justify that I am reaching and still helping thousands of people, it wins and remains in my life. BUT when I step away, take a break, do less, *I* am so much happier. At peace. There is no denying the difference. It’s why I do events. Face-to-face interaction and change in the world is so meaningful and keeps me going with the social media/blog side of things.
I know there are benefits to meeting more people you wouldn’t otherwise, staying in touch with people, and having more info/support readily available. I get it. But at what cost?
Do those things and step back and live your life without constantly checking FB on your phone. You’ll be so much happier. Let’s say you take the app off your phone for 24 hours. It may go something like this:
First, you’ll realize how addicted you are to checking in.
Then, you’ll realize how it gets easier to not check in.
You will go from feeling the addicted need to check in to feeling an overall feeling of calm and peace.
You will find other things to do like pick up the house, watch a show, take a bath, shave, do a project you’ve been putting off, an activity with your child, or a meaningful phone call with a friend instead of FB chats.
You will then go back to Facebook and realize you missed NOTHING. It’s all the same. You can catch up whether it’s been 24 hours or 24 days. We miss out more on life be being sucked into social media than the other way around.
You see, social media takes more from you than it gives you when it’s used in such a way. When it is used as a tool to check in with friends/family and ask a question (resource) here and there, it can be a great. It’s up to use how we use it. The saying “Less is more” accurately applies here.
The longer you go without it being a constant in your life, the more meaningful your life and relationships become again. A bold statement? Maybe, but it’s true.
I challenge you to take a 24 hour break. Can you do it? Let me know how it goes if you do.
Images by Evie Marie Photography.