Motherhood Temper Tantrums

by January Harshe on January 12, 2016

There are times in motherhood where you will simply lose your shit. I’m completely serious. If you haven’t yet, it is coming. If you have, then you know what I’m talking about.

You’re exhausted, pulled in too many directions, and pushed too far. It usually builds up with lack of sleep, always being needed, life stressors, and trying to force things.

The bad part about losing your shit is that it makes everyone sad. Sadness is part of life though, darling. We can’t be happy 24/7. We need to learn and have growth. Like mom guilt isn’t bad enough though, a mommy temper tantrum is great at adding extra. But once the dust settles, you have a good yell or cry or both, and good things can actually come from it.

Shedding all that frustration, hurt, anger, etc. can help you get to the core of the issue. It gives you clarity to see things from a different perspective and to build the pieces back up to be better than before.

I’m not telling you to go lose your shit for the sake of losing your shit, I’m just saying that it happens and it’s not the end of the world, you’re still a good mother, and there’s always a silver lining.

Take a deep breath, try to take some time to yourself to quietly process (when you can), learn from it, and try something different!

Motherhood is the ultimate survival mode, problem-solving, multi-tasking job there is. Figure out what works for your family even if it seems completely unconventional. And be willing to leave some wiggle room for adjustments and change.

If things are really feeling out of sorts, it may be best to take a step back and just go with the flow for a little bit. Say yes a lot more. You’d be surprised how that can help.

january harshe, austin texas

Moms, you are allowed temper tantrums too and your family will love you unconditionally through them just like you love and support them unconditionally through theirs. That’s what family does.

Love,

J

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Kat Caldwell January 12, 2016 at 6:01 pm

Amen sister!!!

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Cynthia January 12, 2016 at 6:45 pm

Thank you. Sometimes you just need to hear that things are ‘allowed’ so you don’t feel so darn guilty.

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Dana January 12, 2016 at 9:42 pm

Thank you for the perfect timing of this post, I had one of these tonight at dinner (with a 2.5 and 4 year old). I’m usually the calm and patient one, not tonight ?.

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Keri-Ann Tochka January 13, 2016 at 10:22 am

January, I happened upon the post at the perfect moment. I really appreciate your honesty and beautiful writing. It’s so easy to get stuck in the guilt trap and let it dictate the rest of the day. Your post really got me to rethink my perspective on mama tantrums (which have happened more often than I would normally care to admit.) I love these lines “I’m not telling you to go lose your shit for the sake of losing your shit, I’m just saying that it happens and it’s not the end of the world, you’re still a good mother, and there’s always a silver lining.” Just focusing on what this mistake tells me and how I can handle the next situation differently (as I know there will always be another test right around the corner) is just what I need. Thanks so much for sharing this 🙂 Keri-Ann Tochka

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Kisha Burton January 26, 2016 at 3:27 pm

Oh how I needed to read this today lol so good!

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